Directed by Ronald Deronge. With Hielde Daems, Willem Geyseghem. Should Boys and Girls Get Sexual Education Separately? In a #metoo world, we need to reconceptualize how we teach sexual education. Posted Feb 24, 2018.
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Source: CCO creative commons. No attribution requiredLast month I got a notice home from school that in my daughter’s grade 4 health class they would be starting “Family Life,' aka sex ed. As someone who studies sexual violence prevention, this was music to my ears. I was very happy to see that topics related to human were being addressed at school, as many children get little to no information about these topics at home. We live in New Jersey, which has the highest level of state compliance for CDC recommended topics for sexual education. But a 2015 study found that fewer than half of U.S. High schools and one fifth of middle schools teach essential sexual education topics.While the topic of sexual education of our children is a squeamish one for and children alike (in the interest of full disclosure my husband made faces when reading the memo) – most people report that they got most of their information about sexuality from health class so it is vital that they do get this information.
In fact, research suggests that a lack of education can result in increased sexual behaviors which puts youth at risk for a host of problems including early, sexually transmitted diseases and sexual victimization.While some argue that the decision to give our children sexual education is a personal one – that is a debate for another post. What gave me pause was the decision to educate the girls and boys separately.
While they made it clear that both groups would be receiving the same information, the girls were going to get the information from the female health teacher and the boys from the male health teacher. At first as a parent, I did not know how I felt about that – on the one hand I can see the kids getting silly when learning about the others’ body parts and as a consequence kids may be more afraid to ask questions – but on the other hand as a sexual violence prevention researcher I felt that it gives children the implicit message that there is something shameful about sexuality and that girls should not know about boys and boys should not know about girls and that girls and boys cannot talk about these topics together.
In addition, separating children along traditional lines neglects the needs of those kids who are transgendered or non-gender conforming.As a sexual violence prevention researcher, the explicit and implicit messages that we send to children about sexuality and our bodies have been on my mind lately as I think about how our culture is changing in the Post-Weinstein era. While this has been a challenging time – it is also an exhilarating time where victims are being heard and believed and perpetrators are being held accountable for their actions. We are witnessing a change in the way that we are perceiving unwanted sexual behavior. Thus the message I want to send to my children is that their sexual organs are body parts belong to them, that they are not shameful and that no one has a right to touch them without their permission. I think this message that sexuality and the human body are shameful is what enables abuse. For example, if someone was to punch you or curse at you at school or in the workplace you would not think twice about reporting it.
However, if someone pats you on the bottom or makes an unwanted sexual comment we often think that is somehow different and not an assault or abuse. We may feel confused or ashamed or feel that we in some way contributed to the behavior.So while as a researcher there is no hard evidence to suggest that separating girls and boys for sex ed is “good” or “bad” – to me separating children along gender lines gives the message that there is something secretive or shameful about this topic and it is something that cannot be discussed openly in mixed company. Thus, I firmly believe that the more openly we can talk about these topics, and talk about them without shame and, the more comfortable people will feel reporting sexual misconduct when and if it does happen. This will also take away the power from those who perpetrate sexual crimes as they often rely on the victims’ shame to ensure secrecy. Thus I believe that our practices must change and going forth, sexual education for children and adolescents should be done together and not separately. What happened throughout history.
Women and men lived separate lives. Until feminists wanted to integrate the two sexes into the same lifestyle. #MeToo is the natural consequence of feminist activism. We can either accept that these things are going to happen, or keep trying to ameliorate the situation and in the interest of doing so, make the problem worse. There will always be men who assault women, and women who assault men, and women and men who lie about being assaulted to destroy people's lives and any number of combinations of those things you can think of.
Stop trying to socially engineer the world into utopia, it ain't happening. And I remember there were pretty good, factual discussions about anatomy, and also about a comprehensive range of contraception.I also remember everyone laughing their asses off about penises and erections. But everyone also being deadly silent about vaginas. I guess even back then, we felt female parts were not as funny as male ones.So separating sex ed classes might work, but only if we're taught the exact same things. And mixed again to talk about the stuff that happens.between. men and women, like emotions and consent. Why sex is reduce only to STDs and pregnancy?It brings the point, male genitalia is mostly external while female genitalia remains unscathed about being inadequate.So how about topics about penis size, circumcision, foreskin retraction?
Harder topics like premature ejaculation, or psychogenic erectile dysfunction, testicular torsion, varicoceles.While we have agenda education that girls and women are more hormonal therefore excuse to act irrational, while testosterone being more powerful is only for excuse of cavemen to act irrational.You have too teach boys from young age that their genitals will be subject of ridicule and laughs from day one until you die. This sounds very firm from psychological aspect and of course should be free from any damage.
Note the none recommended sarcasm.Prostate exam like any bullying, it has to be manual and trust the doctor that it was smooth, no ultrasound probe that takes a picture of the prostate nor a precise size of it with an annual graphic showing how it is growing.Does sexual education is more about respect or about learning to laugh at expense of other?I had a girlfriend that was acting irrational one day. She wanted to go to this expensive restaurant knowingly that I was working hard between college and part time jobs, I took her, then after ordering wine, she decided she wanted to go to another restaurant then she start picking fights with the waiters.
Until I asked her, what is your problem. Are you on your period? I only got a slap in the face in the restaurant.
That was the end of the relationship. Never talk to her again, physical aggression is physical aggression no matter from whom it comes.So teaching to get respect from everyone and specially from doctors that you are supposedly place a lot of trust is very difficult. I am referencing the US gymnastic scandal.This problem will not be resolved until there is clear separation of religion and unbiased education to follow an objective. It starts from current doctors and rewriting DSM5, that adults and persons of authority are the main problem.I had seen very disturbing people in my life and the worst damage comes from the persons you are supposed to trust; your parents.
Your parents told you about religion, about damnation to hell. And the plethora of vaccines are wrongful, “libertads ” that only studio facts-science and God wil be vengeful.Religion was invented by man kind, it was not invented by God.
God exists but not in a way of religion.Until people executing medicine, psychology, sociology and including science take responsibility of the contribution of problems they cause, no sex education will be robust enough to have a ground of respect, not for children, boys or girls mixed or not mixed or adolescents or even adults.When you teach to get shameful about your body, nothing can go right after that. First of all, your post sounds completely fake.
I doubt you spend much time with women.But let’s suppose, for the sake of argument, it’s real. You actually asked a woman if she’s on her period because she was in a bad mood? What special brand of Neanderthal are you exactly? (Again, I don’t think you’re telling a true story here. But for the record, most women are more likely to experience mood swings BEFORE their period than during.)Anyway, moving on. If she really slapped you, then that’s wrong. However, if you’re actually asking her a stupid question like that, then SHE, not you, dodged a bullet by the two of you breaking up.Again, I think your story is fake.
But if it is real, she’s better off without you. You lost me as soon as you said it 'neglects of those kids who are transgendered or non-gender conforming.'
Tbh, they are a bunch of kids and have absolutely no idea what that means and should not be subjected to it. Studies show that your brain doesn't fully develop (specifically the reasoning area) until 21 years old. But don't get me wrong, I'm ok with it as long as you understand what you're doing and don't force your lifestyle on me.Back to the subject- no matter what you identify as, you have a sex, and therefore should attend the sex ed for your sex. Saying otherwise is plainly illogical and dumb.What really ground my Gears was the fact that you kept mentioning your part in preventing sexual violence and such, which is great- but here you are, questioning why all these bad things happen, and yet here you are SUPPORTING THE SEXUALIZATION OF OUR YOUTH. You have brought this mess upon us, and then try to help it with your illogical bull crap. Anonymous wrote:You lost me as soon as you said it 'neglects of those kids who are transgendered or non-gender conforming.' Tbh, they are a bunch of kids and have absolutely no idea what that means and should not be subjected to it.Why is just learning something 'being subjected to it'?
They are not being asked to participate in sex with a transgendered person. They are only learning about it. If that is bad, how much worse is it to 'subject' kids to history of wars where people kill each other? That would seem to be much more traumatic. Wrote:and yet here you are SUPPORTING THE SEXUALIZATION OF OUR YOUTH. You have brought this mess upon us, and then try to help it with your illogical bull crap. HypocrisyOh, really?
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Hey, look at Holland, where they teach all kinds of sex education in early years, and their teenage pregnancy rate is MUCH LOWER than in the USA.I think you're terribly confused. Giving people information about sex and how to be safe and manage it and not be scared of it, is NOT the same as sexualizing them in some pervy way you're thinking. Unless you have trouble understanding the difference between sexualizing and informing?.